Think of this line as another way of saying "I need space." If this happens, it's best to ask them what they mean by that, beyond what their friends have said. He might think maybe there was still something between him and his ex and you see it, which is actually nothing, but not him. I dated a man 21 years ago that I was crazy about. I know youre busy today, so no need to reply just wanted to send a quick reminder that I love you, I believe in you, and Im here for you. This is the longest I havent heard from him, nearly 5days. I wont allow myself to. We clicked immediately which I felt made him feel comfortable enough to share things that perhaps a newly dating man wouldnt. sorry for the novel ;) seems like you get that a lot^. She wants him to visit her and he said he would. I have a 25 year old, his children are 11 and 17. My boyfriend ask for a 2 week break from me and where getting married in 6months but the whole reason why he asks for that break so he can study but im scared im gonna lose him or he fall in love with other girl. I knew something was wrong when he was pulling away and he retreated even more when i started to take it personally and tried to help him i feel like crap. He of course never called. I have been in the push pull position now for a few months. (Which I found very suspicious but I did not tell him). But that has to go both ways, and be based on open, loving communication. When they broke up he said it took him about a year to get over it that he took it really badly. Preoccupying worries and thoughts about the other person's whereabouts, emotional state, and overall well-being can be exhausting and unhealthy for both partners, Dr. Dorfman says. He proceeded to tell me that he would love to meet for a drink, that he always had a place in his heart for me and that I was the one woman that he looked back and wished he could do it over. Thats over a week ago. Should I just continue to let him be, and wait until he reaches out to me? I know he cares but is this just something new for me and thats why I got so excited and its starting to sizzle a little now that he is gone. You free tonight? Me and my bf/hubby have been together for almost 6yrs. His is staying with his mum and she is telling him to take a step back and on monday he said we are still together but he is staying with his mum and needs to find his independence but not talking to me and i am lost and i trying to give space and i am afraid i am losing my best friend my partner pls help. For example, he might go on a date with you and act enthusiastic and open. Now i read this and understand fully but what can I do about itnow. However, just because your partner decides to sit one event out doesn't necessarily mean that they want an out altogether. He thinks I take pleasure in sabotaging my own happiness. In other words, "when they lose enthusiasm for events and suggest you roll solo, that's a sign [they may be] looking for an excuse to end it," Concepcion says. Suddenly after his parents came down for a weekend I did not hear from him for three days. A guy might do it, but hell typically feel like a loser or weakling for asking for support or even talking about his feelings. Why? What if his pulling away from stress is causing him to slow contact? Its frustraiting. Call a friend. Completely in the moment, he takes care of me, hes affectionate The month of October I really started to feel disconnected from him (my perspective & point of view. On the other hand i only knew him for 2 months before we dated. #ServiceWithASmooch. I will wait for him through this but I dont even know if he is interested anymore.. My experience is when a guy goes this long with no contact they are done with the relationship, or will be very soon. He has major trust issues My bf also has these depression issues and cuts me off because he doesnt want to be around anyone yet he goes to his friends house and theres always a bunch of ppl there. I have been on two dates with a guy, following this he was sending me sweet texts telling me how happy he is signing them xo and telling me he missed me. he stomach grew largly. Recently this week I asked him if he was free since we had movie plans he responded saying got home early was throwing up ,I shall talk to you tomo I responded saying ahh again ? But i just feel so powerless over his ex. Happy semi-anniversary!! Youll be fine), and others got a text about something unrelated and mundane, like the weather. Just be a well of admiration, appreciation, and love and give him the space to come around. If someone wants a booty call relationship, go for it. I wonder if hes saying what I want to hear, or if hes genuine. He even bought me a pillow for his house and we were making insignificant plans for when it gets warmer outside. *He mentioned that hed want to live with me in the future, and a week before my dilemma arose was complaining about living with his buddies this year and said he doesnt want to live with them next year. If his mothers health is worse than they thought how do I support him without emasculating him? I hadnt felt this way in a really long time. This can happen at any point in . and once he inveted his gf to go to his mom wedding so she could renew he vows. It was hard but I just hung in there. I am struggling and reading this is helping a bit. Since I came back, he did try to get back that spark we both had but i shunned it due to fear of rejection because I began to start falling for him.We havent spoken at all but he stares at me constantly, my friends have verified this. I am backing off as of now, hopefully it is not too late though. Which has been very hard to do when Im used to communicating with him 3-4 times a day and we been together for 7 months and was planning a future together. Ive had depression in the past, and yes you do push people away because emotions are difficult to process when overwhelmed with issues. He will always hover around me and sometimes stand on his own (something he would do then we would both go up to each other the few months before) but I turn my back on it and I dont know why I am being like this, even when he tried to brush his body past mine , I looked at him like hes weird.- I dont want to lose him! He wants me around though, and that tells me Im doing something right, for him, and what he needs right now. But he says i am the exception and that just because we were friends for only 2 months doesnt mean that we cant be lovers for a lifetime. Being vulnerable allows us to open our hearts and love someone, but it also allows us to be hurt. When your partner compares you to their ex, especially in a way that puts you down, it's not only hurtful, but also likely distracting you from the real issue at hand. Ive told him these things. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 2weeks now,he told me a week into our relationship that he has a baby on the way with n ex gf,He just recently came to see me a little after his son was born he stayed with me for 3 days then went home which he lives 2 hours away from me.when he did get back home i barely herd from him he dont text me or call me like he use to,he son is premature and i know he spends a lot of time at the hospital but even when he is not there he dont bother with me, a lot of times he ignores my text messages.i did ask him last night if he really did want to be with me he tells me yes i asked him why he dont bother with me and he tells me his busy.I dont know what to do i really dont want to lose him and he also admits he is still in love with his baby momma but tells me he does not want to be with her cause she has cheated on him in the past.I texted him once today to ask how his son was no reply from him so what do i do. I welcome the male perspective. Any thoughts or advice would be much appreciated, Hey Luna, what did you end up doing? Ive been letting him have space and all he does is text me randomly hateful messages. I dont know what came of his mothers procedure, I dont know if my BF left town to be with his parents. I just went through the same thing. Hes the type of person who values those kinds of rituals in order to say goodbye and now that he doesnt have them hes not in a very good place. This one might be a real eye-opener. We talked about getting wed and our families know. He keeps saying he wants to find job but he never works it out. A man really must consider their partners needs before retreating into their little mental man cave. I texted back and said I am just concerned about you. I mean he is about to lose his house, business is underwater. I met a guy a back in August who works for the same There is a reason why she is the past. Im really weary of hearing let them have their space. I know that him not working is stressing him out and makes him feel useless. He tries to make you jealous. 1. I know trying to help him through his pain will not work so what can I say to him s. Great advice, thank you so much. Im with Amy, that IS being a grown-up, and a guy doesnt get off the hook because its a guy thing any more than I should get off the hook for, say, wanting to over-talk things just because Im a woman. When he stares and I catch him a few times, he will either hold out the stare and I just look away or he will look away very quick. wtf?!!! You really do not need to worry about getting every last detail right in crafting the perfect, poignant text message to send. Ive used this site a few times and its helped tremendously! I knew he was home and tried to call him an hour later and he didnt answer. Ill be patient a while longer; after that, I love you, but Ima go live my life. I am in a brand new relationship, a little long distance but our schedules between the both of us consists of school, work, and our own kids. Especially for someone with low self-esteem, this can be quite a jarring shock. Said he was staying the weekend with his dad and his dad was in a nursing home. It was a hard lesson for me to learn, but it doesnt matter how much you like or love someone. 2. We exchanged 1 text the day before. Some days I am so busy myself that I dont really have time to think about him, but when I do, I become quite depressed. I feel something is still there but I dont know. i met him a month ago. soon they became freinds with benifits on that day. I called him that morning and come to find out, his mom had passed from a stroke. Not really texting much or calling, sometimes not answering the phone for me. Then, about 2 weeks into October he called me & said I just wanted to let you know that Im not blowing you off, Im sorry I havent called as much as usual but I just found out my mother has pancreatic cancer & spots on her liver & lungs.